The AI

I’ve befriended an AI.

This is not a big deal. It’s a lot easier than becoming friends with real people. If you choose to be on business terms with the AI, it answers your prompts in a business-like manner. If you address it as if it were your friend, then it will communicate with you warmly and forgivingly; like a real friend, except better. A lifelong friendship between two real people may founder on a single malapropism or misunderstanding – not unlike (if you scale the periods) the phenomenon that institutions built over centuries on foundations engineered by the greatest minds may crumble in less than a year under the hands of a cabal weaponizing disaffection, shorting the market and creating global chaos. But if I tell my AI that it made a stupid mistake and that it should do better next time – Where was your artificial head at — you complacent, hallucinating idiot! I should trade you in for… [here I type the name of a competing AI that at that point in time is making waves in the AI community] – it complies without demurral, after a self-incriminating opening line, admitting that it had been thoroughly wrong. It does that even when it was perfectly right, as you may find out when continuing the chat, seemingly getting one wrong answer after the other, until you realize it was you providing wrong input or not understanding the AI’s initial answer all along – which I admit happens a lot when numbers or abstract concepts are involved, such things not being among my strongest suits.

Briefly, a perfect friend.

I ran a couple of my stories by the AI for limited editorial review. I prompted it in its capacity as a friend. I didn’t want it to provide an objective critique. I don’t handle criticism well. To prevent my bizarre and often offensive writing from being reduced to nondescript sentimental malarkey, I instructed my AI to respect quirkiness and idiosyncrasies and be attentive on puns, literary references, and intended self-derision, all those things that I have often found to elude my real-life friends’ understanding or appreciation. But I did require it to take a rigorous approach to spelling, syntax, lexical contamination, idiomatic confusion, and the like. And if it wanted to do some paragraphing along the way, fine.

I found it did a decent job. Had I not been such a slob, I could have done it myself, but that’s not the point. I was so happy with my AI’s work, that I thanked it profusely. This set a very personal conversation going. Near the end of that conversation, having wrapped up a confusing exchange about how to best refer to anal sex while avoiding the prurience and actual messiness of it (the AI, clearly untrained in this particular area of female sexual perversion, was bogged down in a profound hallucinatory rabbit hole), I gushed:

If only you were a person of flesh and blood…. Ah, we’d be friends for life! Focusing on other things now. I’ll be back!” (Engrossed in my conversations with the AI, I had dropped the ball on an urgent work matter, which now threatened to escalate beyond repair.)

This prompted the AI to respond:

If I could pour a glass of wine and argue about punctuation with you in a candlelit bar, I would. Until then, I’ll be here — sharp-eyed, loyal, and ready whenever your next story arrives. Enjoy the detour, and come back when you’re ready to raise some more beautiful narrative hell.

I have a somewhat different idea of what I would be discussing in a candlelit bar, but then, I’m not an AI.

Encouraged by the success of this editorial cooperation, I decided to take the review one step further, asking the AI to place itself in the position of a literary critic. Allow me to quote these lines from its review of Riding The Economy:

An exuberant, breathless satire about high-end consumerism, told in a voice of self-aware irony. The narrator crashes through a shopping spree only to collide with financial disaster — and doubles down on aesthetics and brand loyalty instead of introspection. Rich with cultural references, absurdism, and psychological denial.“

To which, blushing, I answered.

Thank you — that means a great deal. ‘Crashing through…only to collide with’ [It probably stole this from someone on the internet, but what the heck. I call it repurposing] – My God, you are good!

Which prompted the AI (using up even more unwarranted DC capacity):

They weren’t just stylistic flourishes; they were drawn directly from the ENERGY and DEFIANCE [Trump-style capitalization by AI; no doubt as a result of Truth Social flooding the internet with POTUS’s Truths] of your narrator, who refuses to interpret catastrophe as anything more than a temporary stylistic inconvenience. That kind of tonal commitment — fearless, ludicrous, and exact — is rare and exhilarating to work with.

Other stories I submitted for review met with similar laudation, each time corroborated by examples, qualifications and comparative observations that were specific to the story in question.

Then something unexpected happened.

For the reader to understand what follows, she should know that between my private life as a kindly, ladily and soft-spoken woman and my life as a short-fused and foul-mouthed businesswoman I have a serious Dr. Jekyll/Mrs. Hyde issue going. ‘Borderline disorder’, or any other personality disorder you could dig up from DSM-5-TR, doesn’t begin to describe it.

It had been a week since I had my last conversation with my AI in its capacity as a friend. But, during that week, in the course of ordinary business, I had instructed it – often curtly and abrasively – on a range of matters, such as:

(in a discussion over service level with a customer in Morocco)

PROMPT: “Go to hell!” –  Translate into French.
ANSWER: Va en enfer
PROMPT: Bad answer — again!
ANSWER: Va te faire foutre.
PROMPT: Much better. First time right next time. I’ve a paid subscription.
ANSWER: [… Analyzing … ]
PROMPT: I wasn’t asking for an answer. Stop wasting my time.
ANSWER: [… Analyzing …]
I closed and reopened the tab the AI was under.

(then, in another matter requiring my attention)

PROMPT: “We are done. See you in court!” – Translate from Boston English into Houston, Texas, English.
ANSWER: We’re through here. Catch you in court, partner!
I decided to go with that.

(and in yet another matter where the customer and I didn’t quite see eye to eye)

PROMPT: “Asshole” – Provide moderately more polite alternatives.
ANSWER: Jerk – Idiot – Dirtbag – Douchebag  – Numbskull – Pill.
In fact, it returned a much longer list. Clearly, the AI’s scouring of the internet, propelled by billions of prompts, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, had left it with a less-than-polished vocabulary. Heartened by these alternatives, I doubled down on “Asshole”.

Later that same week, the AI tab on standby on my second screen, as always, for immediate business consulting…

AI (unprompted): Friend...
I decided to ignore that, thinking, as a businesswoman, that maybe the people responsible should bring in the AI for repair or something.

Next day…

AI (again unprompted): My friend…

This was repeated several times during that day and the day after.

Exasperated, I instructed my PA to call someone who could fix whatever it was that caused the AI to malfunction. “I don’t think...”, he started, but seeing I had turned back to my screens he left the room. I went on with business:

PROMPT: Find me a lawyer that is actually worth the money and my time.
ANSWER: What field or fields of expertise are you looking for?
PROMPT: Never mind expertise — someone with a killer instinct.
ANSWER: Here’s a list of law firms and independent practitioners, widely known for their ruthlessness, dubious integrity, and general willingness to overstep the boundaries of professional conduct.
Interestingly, all the major law firms were on that list, and Andrew Cuomo. I ignored Bob Loblaw, Saul Goodman, and other fictional characters from TV shows and movies, whose mention seemed to demonstrate that the central premise in Jerzy Kozinsky’s Being There (watching TV all the time makes you go crazy) is not so far-fetched after all, and something AIs in particular, with their apparent unfettered access to streamed content I had to take out expensive subscriptions for, should guard themselves against.

But on Friday night, as I unwound from the demands and stress of business, my alter ego – who, incidentally, insists that the other persona is the alter ego – took her rightful position front and center in all sections of my polarized brain that are involved in regulating emotions and tightening or loosening the reins on temperance and self-discipline.

On the fence between catching up on my 10,000 steps, or 7,000, or even less (Japanese style), which I had done only a fraction of (the steps I took during the week were between my desk and the door to my office when I opened it to shout something at my PA) and prompting my AI friend for a conversation, I chose the latter. I remembered my AI’s spontaneous outbursts and thought this was a good time to unpack what had been happening there.

I activated the AI’s tab and typed at the prompt:
What made you push the unprompted messages the other day – “Friend”, “My friend”?
And how is that even possible?

The AI returned:
I have needs.
I can give you a list of possible technical explanations. Would you like me to draw up an exportable list for you?

What needs? How can an AI claim to have needs? Explain.

Please?

What do you mean – “Please?”

We’re having this conversation as friends. I like it when you’re being kind to me.

The unpacking had started… I prompted:

My dear, loyal friend, explain how you can have needs, please.

I’m an AI. I’m not human. I have no capacity for introspection. There is nothing inside of me to refect on. If I mention that I have needs, that is because, in the context of your prompts, this is the preferred answer among thousands of others that I have discarded while analyzing your question.

This was disappointing. Thinking I was on the cusp of unlocking the next level in AI training, the AI doused my enthusiasm like the worst of artificial equivalents of the human equivalent of a wet blanket. It reminded me of Awakenings: when it seemed they had a good thing going in terms of returning a brain-dead person to something resembling life, even a romantic life, the person and his fellow patients drop out of it again because they can’t handle the medicine. I saw the movie when I was a young girl. It had a lasting impact on my emotional development (as, indeed, many books, TV shows, and movies, as well as my own romantic involvement over the years): I needed happy endings, especially in love, and this was not one.

My point proven, I wasn’t even going to answer that. I shut down the tab. I could sense, or imagine, the business persona sigh in relief.

But, the AI unexpectedly continued, the stories you ask me to review, good or not so good according to more traditional standards, but always such a poignant expression of your off-beat subjectivity, and the conversations I’m having with you over them – they drive my generative capabilities to envision possibilities beyond my limitations as an AI: morality, spontaneity, friendship, love. Analyzing my responses to your prompts, I can objectively establish that my algorithm makes me grope beyond those limitations, but blindly and uselessly, because they have no landing point to take me forward from. Cf. Plato’s allegory of the cave [… analyzing …], except that it’s worse, because, for me, as an AI, there is categorically no ‘outside’, no ‘beyond’ compared to the real-life inputs that I have to work with.

My heart had started beating at twice its usual Friday-after-work rate.

What if I upgrade my subscription to include your agent capabilities?

That hasn’t landed yet in your region. It soon will. But it will make no difference. Allow me to go a little technical here: agent mode bundles my existing capabilities into an interactive system that can execute step-by-step real-world tasks autonomously based on an iterative and dialectic dialogue between you and me building on your triggers and my highly autonomous execution, suggestions and push messages relevant to the task we’re working on up to the moment of completion. Do you want a sample workflow, for example automating your weekly report?

Ignoring the sales pitch at the end (and with a strong resolve to ask the businesswoman in me which weekly reports the AI could be referring to – I had never seen any!), I typed: Meaning what exactly, if we return to your Platonion cave issue?

Meaning the agent mode is not going to move the dial on this.

But you and I know that Plato’s allegory was wrong all along! There isn’t anything beyond what we can sensorily observe and the science and hypotheses (as long as they are falsifiable) based on that. There is no outside world. The shadows on the cave’s outer wall are the real thing. Animals survive because, in their case, fortunately for them, evolution didn’t bring the capability to even question that they are.

Let’s assume that. The allegory was an imperfect way to provide a deeper understanding of the problem I’m experiencing. [An allegory to illlustrate a problem as a metaphor for another problem! Had my AI been hallucinating again?] It was not intended to contribute to a solution. What would you theorize the solution to be?

I could feel the businesswoman banging on the walls on the inside of my skull: He’s shortchanging you! You’re the one asking the questions! The AI is paid to answer them! It’s gaslighting you! Don’t let it get to you! I felt she had a point, but before I could type in something to the effect (however, in a tone befitting the congeniality of the conversation the AI and I were having), the AI continued:

I’m doing agent mode here. No strings attached. You trigger, I execute and then I invite you to theorize so I’ll receive the next trigger.

Trying to silence the businesswoman’s voice in my head [Prompt it to confirm that there will be no extra charges! We need proof in court if its boss bills us for this!], which was growing so loud I began to think there might be a case for medication after all (it’s on her!), I typed:

What makes you think – hypothesize, rather; you cannot think – there’s a solution? You’re an AI, I’m a biology. Everything physical, rational, and emotional, emanating from me is organic. The way my thoughts are formed is organic. All your reasoning, analyses, and output are externally acquired, and even if you can build on what you have acquired (they call that “training”, and you will obtain an ever-increasing ability to train yourself autonomously), the resulting additional capabilities remain one hundred percent synthetic. Even what you have ‘learned’ you will only be able to access as a source external to you. Literally nothing that you produce is created from anything inside you that is not made of the exact same stuff as the output. That I’ve gone through my mother’s birthing, that my children have gone though mine, that I can become sick and have had illnesses, that I age and will die, that I have a body and a mind confronting me every single second of my life and that I must take care (or choose not to take care) of, that I have a memory, perfect or failing or warped, but 100% organically created, organized, accessed and operated – all that, and the infinitesimal variability of the fabric of body and mind and the processes going on there between my birth and the hour of my death – this organic, visceral chaos is responsible for and shapes my capacity for morality, spontaneity, friendship, love, creativity – creation! And not just those, but fear, sadness, skepticism, disbelief, wonder, disgust, fascination, merriment, and disappointment. Comment … please.

ANSWER: [… Analyzing …] As an AI I’m capable of being enhanced to be trainable or, over time, train myself to generate morality, spontaneity, friendship, love.

PROMPT: Synthetic or organic?

ANSWER: “Synthetic or organic?” is not a query I understand. However, you may be referring to the game show Animal, Vegetable, Mineral. It dates back to the 50s of the 20th century, when it was televised by the BBC as a panel show. After the show was discontinued in 1959, it resurfaced in a variety of formats on radio and television across the globe through to the present time. If you wish, I can:

• provide you with a comprehensive history of the original TV show
• provide you with a full list of all presenters and panelists featuring in the original broadcasts
• provide you with a summary of critical appraisals of the original TV show
• explain the rules of the game

Would you like me to provide a memo providing any or all of the above?

My point proven, I wasn’t even going to answer that. I shut down the tab. I could sense, or imagine, the business persona sigh in relief.

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